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When Bluntness is the Most Caring Approach

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Do you possess a blunt, straightforward approach in your personal and professional relationships? Does it concern you at times that your bluntness might be making you look like an insensitive, rude person? Do you sometimes find it difficult to get along with other people? You do not need to worry so much, as from my personal experience, some of the best friends and colleagues that I have had have been honest about their opinions. In this blog, I will try to explain why.

Why Should You be Proud of Your Blunt Personality

People have varying personalities and this makes life intriguing and fascinating. If you are straightforward and blunt, you might confuse the people around you in understanding your true intentions. However, there will be people in your life who will admire and respect you for your straightforwardness and honesty. Here are my 6 reasons why you should be proud of your blunt personality:

  1. People know the True YOU. The best thing about you, if you are blunt is that you have no phony side to you. You are what you are and what people see in you is what they get. No matter what the situation, you always show your true colors, even if your behavior is cold and people do not approve of what you have to say. There are no guesses when you speak and there are no hidden meanings to your words. Even if you might come off rude at times, people will like you for being truly genuine.
  2. Honesty is the best Policy. You are gifted with the ability to be honest with everyone at all costs and in all situations. No wool is getting pulled over other people’s eyes. Your friends can count on you to lay it on the line with all your cards on the table. Because they trust that you will always be truthful come what may, they can trust that your opinions are stated with clarity. This honesty makes you the person to consult with if someone needs real help.
  3. You are Thick Skinned Too. If you are tick skinned, there is a high likelihood that you are thick skinned too. This means that people can be equally honest with you like you are with them. You can easily handle any criticism that comes your way, without getting offended or personal. All that you will have to watch out for is to not step too hard on their toes or counter back with your own words of criticism – let the bashing be one way at a time.
  4. There is No Drama with You. You know that your life is free from all the drama. In fact, you intentionally avoid all drama around you as much as possible. It is when people feel offended, hurt, or misunderstood by your intentions that the ‘real’ drama starts. Since you do not play that game, it all soon dies out. You can call yourself an open book with clear rules that you follow earnestly.
  5. You Know Exactly What You Want In Life (And You Get It!). You are not just honest with others, but also with yourself. This means that in most cases, you know exactly what you want in life and you do what it takes to reach your targets. With a laser focus on your goals, you tend to be more determined than those people who pretend to their own selves over their wants and needs. This makes you determined individuals who has the ingredients of being a good leader.
  6. You are Packed with Confidence. For most of the people, it takes courage to speak their minds aloud. For you, it is a mere habit; just like being confident all the time. Even if you do not know, you are radiating confidence that most other people lack. You have a certain control over your actions, words and the subsequent consequences and you are not afraid of the challenges. This trait of your is very desirable and it can help you in the trickiest of situations.

While straightforward personalities are often misjudged as rude and harsh, the truth is that if people are willing to look closely, it is this bluntness that can be the most caring approach anyone can take. There is no point in deceiving others with lies and opinions that you know are not true. In fact, there is nothing better than an honest friend giving an honest, constructive criticism.

How Being Blunt Pays Off

I have seen a negative stigma around someone being termed “the blunt friend”. The reality is that people usually have a wrong perception of bluntness and that needs to be cleared up. In reality, being blunt is hardly ever a bad thing, if done with honest intention. Society as a whole, need to change how it looks at straightforward people. Below are some ways in which being blunt should pay off for you:

How to be Blunt and Not Look like a Jerk

I look at being blunt as truly caring for someone or something. You will never put in effort to give honest advice on something that is not close to your heart or you do not care about. While I truly believe that blunt people are not doing it because they are bullies, there are certain things that they can do to not be labeled as jerks:

Listen to Others. You need to understand that your sole reason for being blunt is to give honest, helpful advice. It is equally helpful for the people around you if you also give them a chance to talk and not just steamroll your own opinions. Take out time to listen to their side of the story and then give them a piece of your mind. You might also look like a bully if you do not pay attention to what others have to say and just wait for your chance to retort.

Are you labeled as being blunt? Let me know in the comments section how have you developed yourself as an individual in your professional and personal life.

This post is part [part not set] of 23 in the series Effective Communication
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